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The Generous Wife

This is a website that I found about 2 years ago and have visited several times during that period.  There are a lot of great things on and about the website and the owner, Lori, does a fantastic job.  My favorite part (and I am sure others as well) is that you can sign up to receive a daily e-mail from her.  In this e-mail you will receive a “tip” on how to be a more generous wife.

During the time that I stumbled (can’t remember how) upon the website, I was looking for ways that I could improve my marriage.  Things weren’t bad but they weren’t good either.  I felt that Josh and I had started to get comfortable with each other and we needed some sparks.  But I didn’t want anything that was going to cost a lot in either money or time.  I wanted something that would be simple to do yet have a big impact. Something that was subtle and that he probably wouldn’t even realize I was doing but it would change the way things were headed.  So I found this website.  Here is the description off the site itself.

Over the years I have grieved to see couples that lack intimacy and show signs of stress and conflict. In considering why, I came to the conclusion that most couples aren’t taught how to cope with the changes and stresses of life. Instead of digging in deeper, standing together and nourishing each other, they withdraw in an attempt to nourish themselves, giving up kindness and care, handing out leftovers instead of their very best.

     To stop this in my own marriage, I decided to “give a bit more” and, well … “get generous.” It was not an immediate and complete understanding at first, but as I walked toward generosity, I began to reap the benefits of it – my husband’s gratitude, respect and love. At that point, becoming a generous wife became a serious goal. (I even jokingly said, “When I die I want ‘she was a generous wife’ put on my tombstone.”) I enjoyed intimacy and security in my marriage and I could face my marriage with a greater sense of integrity as I blessed my husband with little acts of kindness, respect, and love.

     I know that generosity won’t cure all marriage ailments, but I sincerely believe it will cure many. I offer this list to women as a way of beginning to change the atmosphere in their marriages from one of distance to one of intimacy and mutual respect.

     Everyday you’ll receive an idea geared to bless your husband (a mix of romantic, practical, sexual, relational, and spiritual). Use the ideas that will work for you and use the rest to spark your imagination in looking for ways to bless your husband.

     Please join me in becoming The Generous Wife.

                                              Lori <><

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Please go visit the site, look at past tips, read the articles and sign up to receive the e-mail tips daily.  It may take a little bit but you will begin to see a difference in your spouse and in your marriage.  And if you don’t want to sign up for the list, check out my page here for the most current tips. I am going to start lisitng them on my website.  Hope they help you!

P.S. There is also a list for husbands that you can tell your husband about and who knows maybe he will sign up!


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